Growing Old Gracefully

Aging gracefully means being flexible, being open, allowing change, enjoying change and loving yourself ~Wendy Whelan


My birthday is this month. I am super excited, as always to be blessed to see another year. This year I will be turning 44. Time to celebrate half way to 88!

I have never been a person who has been in denial about my age or got offended when someone asked my how old I am. I take pride in saying I am 43 years young. I look good and I feel good. It’s a blessing to be able to say so, as many don’t have the privilege to answer.


Life is like a game of sports, the second half is always better than the first~LaShawn Uchenna Ani

As a woman in her early 40’s , I can honestly say that life only gets better with age. Cliche saying but honestly the truest one I ever heard.

When we are children, we are innocent. we depend on our parents, guardians, or whoever is raising us to provide a stable foundation which mold us into the person we become. I am a firm believer that parents are responsible for the outcome of their children. I find parents often only take responsibility for when their children turn out good with great accomplishments. If your child didn’t turn out as you would expect you should hold yourself equally accountable. It’s selfish to think otherwise.


As we get into our twenties, we have the world in our hands. We have youth on our side. However, we are naive. We think we know it all and we don’t know anything. In my twenties, I made a lot of really bad choices and decisions. I didn’t listen to anyone. I thought I was grown and had all the answers. Only if hindsight was 20/20 and I knew what I know now, I would have been a force to be reckon with.


When I hit my thirties, I felt like I knew a little something, but I was still missing something. Thirties is that age you know you are not young but you are not old. No one calls your Aunt, Uncle, or OG. You can still play, there’s some wiggle room for error. But you need to try to make better choices and decisions. However, I know circumstances changes things and affect decision making whether it be your finances, career, relationship or family dynamic.


When I turned 40 honestly it just clicked for me. The AHA moment Oprah talks about is real. You are now being called Aunt, Uncle, or OG whichever the millennials decide to call you. I had my AHA moment in 2015, and I never looked back. I never forgot what my God Mother told me “ It’s nothing like an old fool!” I love a good quote and word of inspiration. And those six words changed my life. Honestly, if you are still doing the same old stuff you were doing in your twenties in your forties you just want get it. That’s just how I feel about it for my life.

Now that I am in my 40’s, I am wiser, knowledgeable, I listen to speak and not to respond. I don’t take nothing for granted. I am grateful and filled with gratitude. I don’t waste my time with anyone who isn’t worth it. I am good with canceling on my friends. I have no problem saying NO. I don’t settle. I do what I want. I know whose with me and for me. I’m enjoying the aging process. I have found true love. I know my flaws and I have accepted them. I know what I like and what I don’t like. I have learned to let my daughter grow and allow her to live her life. I enjoy being alone sometimes. I trust the process. I speak things into existence. I believe in God. I have concerns about my few extra pounds but I am not consumed. I live an OH WELL LIFE and not a WHAT IF LIFE! I know that I am a work in progress. I am a QUEEN.


Are you growing old gracefully? What are your thoughts? Comment Below

14 thoughts on “Growing Old Gracefully

  1. lifewithlane14 says:

    I’ve been an Aunt since I was 15. So for the past almost 24 years I’ve been called Aunt Nikki. I don’t have to wait until I hit my 40’s lol. I love it though, its one of best feelings in the world. I am definitely aging gracefully. I look and feel good. I think my life is finally going in the right direction. You my friend look absolutely stunning no matter what age you are. This is a wonderful post. I feel as if I learn something new about myself each year. Life is about growing and learning. Becoming better and wiser with age. Thank you lovely

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  2. Daenel Vaughn-Tucker says:

    I could not agree with this post more! When I was younger *whew* I thought I knew everything. Now that I’m in my 40s, I know I don’t know everything but I’m willing to ask for advice. I’m also less tolerant of people my age doing the same silly stuff they did in their 20s. I just don’t have the time.

    Happy birthday to you and here’s to so many more!!

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