Aging Gracefully-Accepting My Gray Hair

Gray hair is a crown of glory; 
it is gained by living a godly life.

Proverbs 16:31

While everyone is just seeing my natural hair color. I was gray before it was a trend to the millennials. I saw my first gray hair in my early 20’s. In my late 20’s more gray hairs would come, and I would pluck them out. Ouch! Then in my 30’s, there was no more plucking grays, because the gray was all in my roots. And by the time, I was in my early 40’s , I just could not keep up, they were like a wild fire totally out of control. And I was scared, not ready, and frustrated!!!

Both my mother and my grandmother, were gray in their early 30’s.

I have always worn protective styles such as wigs and braids- not totally embracing my natural self, and the aging process. I have finally made the choice as I enter chapter 45, next month to go completely gray ( NO MORE HAIR DYE) and accept what I can no longer control for several reasons:

  • Health concerns, I have read that coloring/ dying your hair is associated with cancer, especially breast cancer in African American women. There was also a special on tv that I saw about cancer affecting African American women as well.
  • Exhausted, I was tired of coloring my hair every three to four weeks. I also had very stubborn grays so no matter which color, I choose whether it was a rinse, semi/permanent dye, or permanent dye , it wound not last for long.
  • Appearance, I hated looking like a calico cat. I have always preferred blond hair because I thought it looked better with my skin tone. So when my hair would grow back after I colored it, my hair would be blonde, black, and gray. Not a good look.
  • Acceptance, I have learned to accept myself for who I am and for what God has blessed me with.

I accept myself for who I am not for what others think I should be.

Making this life change has not been easy, it’s been very challenging because of society. Society associate gray hair with age and being unattractive. It’s like when you are gray people look at you different, like you have committed a crime.

Even when, I was getting my hair done, the stylist was not supportive or encouraging me to embrace my gray hair. She even asked why I was not coloring it and to me just not supportive, giving me every reason not to accept my gray.

For some reason, no one wants to be gray. Please tell me why is gray hair so taboo, problematic, and considered unattractive?

As I enter a new chapter of life, I am at the age of acceptance, growth, and the stage of embracing who I am. While I know many people don’t want to be a part of the gray hair community, it’s definitely a privilege denied to many and I’m honored to have the crown of glory.

Gray hair is gray hair.

Gray hair is the glory of life.

Gray hair is the glory of long life.

Gray hair is the crown of life.

Lailah Gifty Akita

11 thoughts on “Aging Gracefully-Accepting My Gray Hair

  1. Brandi S. says:

    I think you rock the gray hair beautifully, LaShawn. Premature graying runs in my family, on my mom’s side actually, so I ended up getting my first gray in my late 20’s. I have a few (maybe 3 or 4) strings of gray now gracing me with their presence and I’m fine with it. I joke and say that when it starts taking over my head I will look like Storm from X-men (minus the electricity coming out my hands and eyes Lol) Very happy you’re embracing your grays. It really is something to be proud of. ☺️

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  2. PoojaG says:

    I think your hair looks amazing! I started getting grey hair when I was 18 and I have a few now but I don’t think I’ll be colouring it. I think hair dying can be pretty bad for your health and honestly I’m okay with having some grays.

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  3. Jim Borden says:

    I’m with you LaShawn. I’ve had gray hair for probably 15 years, and I am fine with it.

    That being said, I think it is easier for a guy, since, as you point out, some people have a problem with women with gray hair…

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  4. Kat says:

    Girl, you look amazing! You won’t have anything to worry about until your beautiful face gets older. But I have quite a few years on you and my grey braids still get me compliments.

    Liked by 1 person

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