Gray hair is a crown of glory;
it is gained by living a godly life.
While everyone is just seeing my natural hair color. I was gray before it was a trend to the millennials. I saw my first gray hair in my early 20’s. In my late 20’s more gray hairs would come, and I would pluck them out. Ouch! Then in my 30’s, there was no more plucking grays, because the gray was all in my roots. And by the time, I was in my early 40’s , I just could not keep up, they were like a wild fire totally out of control. And I was scared, not ready, and frustrated!!!
Both my mother and my grandmother, were gray in their early 30’s.
I have always worn protective styles such as wigs and braids- not totally embracing my natural self, and the aging process. I have finally made the choice as I enter chapter 45, next month to go completely gray ( NO MORE HAIR DYE) and accept what I can no longer control for several reasons:
- Health concerns, I have read that coloring/ dying your hair is associated with cancer, especially breast cancer in African American women. There was also a special on tv that I saw about cancer affecting African American women as well.
- Exhausted, I was tired of coloring my hair every three to four weeks. I also had very stubborn grays so no matter which color, I choose whether it was a rinse, semi/permanent dye, or permanent dye , it wound not last for long.
- Appearance, I hated looking like a calico cat. I have always preferred blond hair because I thought it looked better with my skin tone. So when my hair would grow back after I colored it, my hair would be blonde, black, and gray. Not a good look.
- Acceptance, I have learned to accept myself for who I am and for what God has blessed me with.
I accept myself for who I am not for what others think I should be.
Making this life change has not been easy, it’s been very challenging because of society. Society associate gray hair with age and being unattractive. It’s like when you are gray people look at you different, like you have committed a crime.
Even when, I was getting my hair done, the stylist was not supportive or encouraging me to embrace my gray hair. She even asked why I was not coloring it and to me just not supportive, giving me every reason not to accept my gray.
For some reason, no one wants to be gray. Please tell me why is gray hair so taboo, problematic, and considered unattractive?
As I enter a new chapter of life, I am at the age of acceptance, growth, and the stage of embracing who I am. While I know many people don’t want to be a part of the gray hair community, it’s definitely a privilege denied to many and I’m honored to have the crown of glory.
Gray hair is gray hair.
Gray hair is the glory of life.
Gray hair is the glory of long life.
Gray hair is the crown of life.Lailah Gifty Akita